Have you ever known what your problem and remedy is but could not reach it? This is desperation.
Note: I realized that I do not know what the word despair is in English while translating this article into English from Turkish. Let me be a little Pollyanna, which means I never felt helpless when talking to strangers.
Desperation, does it feel like it has no cure or we don’t know what it is? But it is worst than if it you know the solution and there is no way to reach it. It seems to me that this is the real desperation.
WHAT CHANGES IF YOU KNOW THE CURE
Desperation is that you know there is no hope, so what changes if you know the cure.
It is necessary to define the problem coorectly and evaluate what is available and the current situation. That’s why i searched fort he basic emotions and deep dive to magma.
There were 8 basic emotions and the rest of the feelings we knew, they were all shaped around these 8 basic emotions.
Happiness: Joy, pleasure, relaxation, pride, excitement and exuberance,
Sadness: Grief, pain, gloomy, melancholy, hopelessness, loneliness and depression,
Fear: Anxiety, irritability, timidity, terror and panic,
Surprise: Shock and curiosity,
Anger: Ofke, wrath, irritability, hostility, resentment and violence,
Interest: Curiosity, acceptance, friendship, trust, compassion, love and commitment,
Disgust: Contempt, contempt, arrogance, hate, dislike, dislike,
Shame: Guilt, disappointment, remorse, sadness and regret,
Which one of the topics includes the despair? I couldn’t find it, some sadness, some fear? I get hopelessnessand loneliness from the sadness headline and anxiety and timidity from the fear headline for the true definiton of desperation. (Note: You can find the article about loneliness here: http://pinkysardine.com/loneliness-mevlana-celaleddin-rumi-carl-gustav-jung-and-pinkysardine/ )
It seems a person understands things with time. I have learned the accuracy of many proverbs and cliches over time by testing. And most of the time with the word: Unfortunately. Desperation is such a thing. The suicide news you watched on TV, the people who were insane or the one you heard from the neighbor, who knows someone was very depressed, using drugs… it wasn’t that far away. People may think that I am suicidal because I wrote all these here, but I think I have a problem about living and also i think who want to die will die and people who is suicidal, don’t need to inform anyone.
IT DOES NOT CHANGE THE TRUTH IF YOU KNOW THE CURE
Let me continue without distraction. Desperation pushes the limits of human imagination. When I feel like this, I always try to think of any combination to find a solution. Thinking the solution doesn’t always work that i said at the beginning of the article. It does not change the truth if you know the cure.
PHYSICALLY DEFINITION OF DESPERATION
I can physically sort out desperation to lots of things. Imagine that you are in a sand swamp, you sink as you move. If you do not move, you remain there. Or maybe someone tied your feet to a stone as in old-time mafiatic narrations and they threw yoıu into the flowing cold waters of Marmara Sea. I guess that you are sinking to the bottom quickly, even if you beat it, you will sink. While water is filling your lungs, there is no loss of consciousness first. Or you fall from somewhere high, you will necessarily fall. They all have TWO common features. ONE: One does not feel as if you are heading up to the sky. TWO: After all, your feet are on the ground.